I (23M) was sitting on a bench drawing and a girl sat on the same bench, then she started talking about my drawings, I said a few words about them, but I started to feel that I was getting very nervous, and after some phrases i just stood up and walked away to another part of the park. A few minutes later I saw her heading my way again. But when she saw me her face became sad and she turned around and walked back the other way. Now i feel so awful about all this ,I didn’t mean for this to happen but it kinda did. I want to ask people any advice of how to overcome this fears so this is not happened again. For the context i didnt have any genuine converstation with girls in 8-9 years, and i didnt have this problem with males
Idk about going forward in general besides truly believing that people are fundamentally ‘good’ and there’s almost always nothing to fear… but I do think you’re gonna have to apologise to the lady and explain what happened. It ain’t a crime to be shy, and it would reassure her. Maybe compliment her if you’re feeling brave! Or at least say something like “it’s kinda cool to approach people randomly, I wish I were as comfortable…”, that sounds like a good follow up to the apology.
I don’t believe that. At all.
And I don’t think that anybody can simply change such a fundamental kind of belief.
Of course we can, but it takes time and a conscious effort to unlearn whatever traumatic lessons you were taught by life/your childhood.