I (23M) was sitting on a bench drawing and a girl sat on the same bench, then she started talking about my drawings, I said a few words about them, but I started to feel that I was getting very nervous, and after some phrases i just stood up and walked away to another part of the park. A few minutes later I saw her heading my way again. But when she saw me her face became sad and she turned around and walked back the other way. Now i feel so awful about all this ,I didn’t mean for this to happen but it kinda did. I want to ask people any advice of how to overcome this fears so this is not happened again. For the context i didnt have any genuine converstation with girls in 8-9 years, and i didnt have this problem with males
What were you afraid of exactly?
of a girl talking to me, i didnt get any communication with opposite sex in ages, probably mental stuff, now my brain associate them as something new and overwhelming, i dont fully get it myself…
Maybe you should consider some therapy—it can really help with anxieties like these.
Sounds like you’ve been led to see girls and women as “alien” for whatever reason. Understanding the why of that could help us help you, or more importantly, help you help yourself.
So, why didn’t you have any meaningful conversation with any woman relatives, school or work colleagues in so long?
I dont have that problem with relatives coz i grow up with them and they are very familiar people to me, but i dont feel like talking to them about all this, i graduated from school a very long time ago, and my institute was mostly men, i remember our group of 30 people only had 2 girl, and now i work in freelance so no colleagues