I learned what non violent communication is a day ago and I’m using it to mend a friendship.
Have you however used it at the workplace?
I find it unpractical: there are so many things to do at the workplace and the last thing stressed people with deadlines need is to have a conversation about feelings, but maybe I’m wrong?
A question for nurses working bedside: do you actually use non violent communication at your ward with your patients and actually have time to do your other duties, like charting, preparing infusions and meds, dealing with providers, insurance, the alcoholic who fights you, the demented one who constantly tries to leave the unit, the one who wants to leave ama (against medical advice)?
It’s charming to call some new communication style ‘non-violent’, as if it’s the first.
I learned to update in quick language in the army. I learned to argue a point in New Jersey.
In NJ, when I worked there, the staff of geniuses were incredibly passionate about doing a thing the best and right way. Sometimes the best route to achieving that wasn’t obvious ans a discussion would ensue. These would be obvious verbal heroism by the nerds in residence, but they only never argued the facts and the options; never the people.
It was effective and only sometimes needed a decision from above, and when everyone was done they didn’t hate each other.
I just don’t see where “I feel …” isn’t just slowing us down when time is short. But, if your environment has a surplus of time, then I hope you’ll see benefit from this idea.