This is really a monumental societal change.

3rd spaces are nearly completely destroyed, and online seems to be the main option for ppl now.

  • Corridor8031@lemmy.ml
    6·
    22 hours ago

    “a well below average guy” i think stuff like this is just made up, i dont believe in ratings and i dont think others should either tbh

    • Asafum@feddit.nl
      3·
      19 hours ago

      Idk comparisons are a thing that can be done and I’m objectively worse than most people in most categories (looks, intelligence, earning potential, education, interests, etc…) so I consider myself “well below average” especially since choosing a person to potentially date does involve comparing them to your other “options.”

      • Corridor8031@lemmy.ml
        5·
        15 hours ago

        since choosing a person to potentially date does involve comparing them to your other “options.”

        i mean if you choose a partner like you would choose a car, then i guess it is like this

        or actually even then it is not like this, like there is nothing objective for most categories.

        like you list interests as below average, what is this even supposed to mean lmao or intelligence like how would you even know that and for earning potential, there are like a lot more poor people than rich, beeing poor is the normal one lol

        even for education, like people can still know dtuff even if they dont go to university… Or know nothing if they went

        what i am saying is this sounds more like you just beeing unhappy with yourself if anything. Or if you are happy, then you are probably just not a good match anyway for someone that is like looking for a car.

        • EddoWagt@feddit.nl
          2·
          11 hours ago

          (Not OP)
          I do get both your standpoints, its all subjective of course, so you can’t really be below average in interests or something like that, but you can definitely be below average in terms of commonalities with other people.

          I don’t know OP so I don’t know if he’s telling the truth or is indeed just unhappy with himself. But if your hobby is watching VR MyLittlePony porn you’re going to have a tougher time than if your hobby is cooking.

          Same for weight, if you’re 200kg it’s going to be harder, especially on dating apps.

          Money and intelligence I’m not so sure about, that probably matters less than he might think