Humans were never meant to take care of babies as couples or alone.
Research suggests that given the tradeoffs of our evolutionary path, we had to shift towards a collective parenting (call it tribe, clan, extended family, etc.)
The modern “individualization” of the person is what has convinced us that such parenting form is “normal” and bearable, and that if you feel overwhelmed, there is something wrong with you.
I dont know where i heard it, but “children should not have only 2 parents”. Meaning the grandparents, uncles, everyone else should parent the child somewhat.
The cliché quote is “it takes a village to raise a child” and I agree. In Western nuclear family culture, that “village” has largely been forgotten.
Most people who are “childfree”, or even anti-natalist, don’t hate children. In a more cooperative society, many would definitely slot into that mentor/cool adult role; myself included.
Humans were never meant to take care of babies as couples or alone.
Research suggests that given the tradeoffs of our evolutionary path, we had to shift towards a collective parenting (call it tribe, clan, extended family, etc.)
The modern “individualization” of the person is what has convinced us that such parenting form is “normal” and bearable, and that if you feel overwhelmed, there is something wrong with you.
Parent of 1.5y here.
Without grandparents in picture I would go crazy.
I dont know where i heard it, but “children should not have only 2 parents”. Meaning the grandparents, uncles, everyone else should parent the child somewhat.
The cliché quote is “it takes a village to raise a child” and I agree. In Western nuclear family culture, that “village” has largely been forgotten.
Most people who are “childfree”, or even anti-natalist, don’t hate children. In a more cooperative society, many would definitely slot into that mentor/cool adult role; myself included.