How can you allow a comment to hurt you? Easy, by being human and having feelings. Comments can’t hurt if you’re an empty husk of a person who has no feelings; if you’re hypervigilant about bracing for attacks; or if you never take a risk of being vulnerable and never share anything important about yourself. None of these options is particularly healthy. Having no feelings is a type of major depression, and living in fight-or-flight mode will lead you there, or to an early grave. The last option is at least reasonable online (but not in relationships), but not so easy in practice.
A common theme in the responses here is the element of surprise, comments and criticism that blindsided the person by hitting them in a vulnerable spot that they didn’t know that they were exposing.
That certainly comports with my experience in receiving hurtful comments.
That’s easy for you to say, but you don’t have their experience and you don’t feel their emotions. I agree that we should strive for that, but expecting everyone to just brush off everything is unrealistic.
disappointed, maybe. How can you allow a comment to hurt you?
NEVER allow your happiness to be dependent of internet opinions mate! you will live a happy life.___
Or that of anyone else honestly.
Your bad behavior/lack of communication, etc isn’t going to ruin my day. Don’t let it, stop thinking about it, move on. It’s their issue not yours.
How can you allow a comment to hurt you? Easy, by being human and having feelings. Comments can’t hurt if you’re an empty husk of a person who has no feelings; if you’re hypervigilant about bracing for attacks; or if you never take a risk of being vulnerable and never share anything important about yourself. None of these options is particularly healthy. Having no feelings is a type of major depression, and living in fight-or-flight mode will lead you there, or to an early grave. The last option is at least reasonable online (but not in relationships), but not so easy in practice.
A common theme in the responses here is the element of surprise, comments and criticism that blindsided the person by hitting them in a vulnerable spot that they didn’t know that they were exposing.
That certainly comports with my experience in receiving hurtful comments.
Guys… we’re talking about comments right? Cause I’m sensing deflection here.
What do you mean by deflection?
That’s easy for you to say, but you don’t have their experience and you don’t feel their emotions. I agree that we should strive for that, but expecting everyone to just brush off everything is unrealistic.
It a tough world out here mate, you best guard up! Or the world just might swallow you whole.
And don’t forget to be nice, cause sociopath is but a man in a process of changing :)
If a dumb driver almost side-swap you while merging into the highway, give him way; he must really need to take a shit.
I don’t think it’s a choice for some of us.
Ok