I’m also a not-so-young dude - forgotten generation - and honestly I don’t remember guys being like this. At least, not to women’s faces. Being rejected sucks and is a hit to your self-image, so there was the occasional after-the-fact, booze-fueled name-calling while among the guys, but to must of us, being rejected was something we were embarrassed about and didn’t advertise by sharing.
Our generations - boomers, gen-x - are selfish, greedy, and short sighted. OTOH, from survey of N=1 (my wife) getting this sort of response from men wasn’t a concern.
I mean there is also a massive amount of underreporting of sexual violence from that time and if you were born a man then there’s a good chance that if you were respectful you may have never been in the room where someone was getting assaulted or harassed. That’s not your fault, I’m glad you might not have been one of the shitty people to hurt others, but I’m pretty sure this shit has been happening a long time.
coming from a no-so-old dude who believes in respect and vibing.
I’m also a not-so-young dude - forgotten generation - and honestly I don’t remember guys being like this. At least, not to women’s faces. Being rejected sucks and is a hit to your self-image, so there was the occasional after-the-fact, booze-fueled name-calling while among the guys, but to must of us, being rejected was something we were embarrassed about and didn’t advertise by sharing.
Our generations - boomers, gen-x - are selfish, greedy, and short sighted. OTOH, from survey of N=1 (my wife) getting this sort of response from men wasn’t a concern.
I mean there is also a massive amount of underreporting of sexual violence from that time and if you were born a man then there’s a good chance that if you were respectful you may have never been in the room where someone was getting assaulted or harassed. That’s not your fault, I’m glad you might not have been one of the shitty people to hurt others, but I’m pretty sure this shit has been happening a long time.
coming from a no-so-old dude who believes in respect and vibing.