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  • What people do in that case is look at pictures of people with various hairstyles online, trying to find one where they feel like “this looks good, I want to try that one”

    I don’t know what problems OP is facing, but in my case, this is basically what the hairdresser recommended that I do and also what I tried doing. Except it didn’t help because nothing was appealing to me (I’m rather change adverse). I really needed to maintain a particular style for a while to get used to it before I could decide if I liked it or not. After that time has passed, I couldn’t tell if I disliked it because it was grown out too much or if I just didn’t like that cut, or if it was some other reason.


  • This is kind of a tautological answer. Of course it’s as often as I want, but what do I want? I had that question when I started making my own decisions on my hair. I was never fully happy with how things looked and haven’t figured out how to style it the way I like. What part of it was I unhappy with? I couldn’t tell. Would more frequent hair cuts help? Or less frequent so it spends more time in that slightly grown out state and I have more consistent hair to work with? And so many other questions.

    If you know that most people get their hair cut after X weeks, then that gives you a starting point to experiment with instead of going into it completely blind.








  • if they didn’t consider the limitations

    They did, and planned for it to the best of their abilities given the available resources. Being disabled doesn’t mean you stop trying to be a functional human being. The illogical thing to do is to sit at home and do nothing because you’re not 100% certain that things will go well. Because as you said,

    Nothing is 100% efficient [or certain or guaranteed]

    So should we not strive to make things as predictable as possible?

    Everyone deserves empathy. All sentient beings, including this hypothetical man.

    Again, all people deserve empathy

    And yet, your ideal scenarios, you keep favouring one person/group at the expense of another. I don’t know if empathy is the word you actually mean to use. You can empathize with everyone while still favouring specific people, but your examples suggest that you’re using “empathy” to mean the actions you take (or don’t take) to help someone rather than the emotional state. In that case, it’s is indeed a binary either/or. In your examples, what you do to help one person will negatively affect others.