How do you “Do as as I say, not as I do”?

  • InfiniteGlitch@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    “Don’t overthink it” & “worrying won’t solve the problem when you have to wait anyway”.

    I always give that advice. However, I, personally, always overthink and keep worrying.

    • Carighan Maconar@lemmy.world
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      I would agree, but I’m still frantically thinking whether I actually agree and whether I should be expressing that publicly!

    • Today@lemmy.world
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      I’m working on this, though i usually say - I’d rather get bitched at for doing it wrong than for not doing it. At my job it’s to emphasize the stupidity of the task and the lack of training on a shitty system.

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      True that haha

      In practice, I live by “never write any code that’s important enough for anyone to insist on testing it” 😎

  • bassad@jlai.lu
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    Stop checking the news.

    Grab a book before sleeping rather than your phone.

    • shapesandstuff@feddit.org
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      Asking for help us a sign if strength, not weakness.

      I know that because i find it extremely hard to ask for help.

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      Oof that his home.

      All I can say is that things can turn it better, it has for me personally.

      It’s great of you that you inspire others, though, not hypocritical, it’s what we all need sometimes. Doesn’t matter if you don’t see it personally, you are helping another human being get along.

    • otp@sh.itjust.works
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      Sometimes it helps to take your own advice, like having a conversation with yourself as if you were another person.

      Other times, there’s a cloud around our heads that stops that from working.

      I hope you find someone to talk to who treats you with the same compassion that you treat others.

      Depending on where you live, someone to talk to is probably a phone call away. Give it a try if that’s an option.

  • ChihuahuaOfDoom@lemmy.world
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    It’s not a problem if it takes you 12 tries and you still haven’t gotten it, do it a 13th. If I don’t do something perfect on the 1st or 2nd try I’ll most likely never do it again.

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      I get the opposite problem. If I get things nearly perfect on the first try, I’ll just think to myself that I’ll never top that and give up. There’s something satisfying about seeing improvement. In the same vein, seeing results get worse is highly discouraging.

    • chraebsli@programming.dev
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      Ohh that was a good one. best one I think.

      Same as having a good backup strategy but didn’t try to restore once.

  • IHave69XiBucks@lemmygrad.ml
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    I will give men advice on how to be more attractive to women but i dont use that advice because i only like men lol. Not that im like the women whisperer i just find straight men to be… misguided i guess is the best word. They project their own wants onto women and dont consider hey maybe she doesnt want the same things you do in a partner.

    • MeowZedong@lemmygrad.ml
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      “If you can’t truly be a good, supportive, platonic friend to her with no secret ulterior motive, maybe you don’t deserve her. Maybe you need to take a look at not only how you treat women, but how you think about them.”

      Most straight men have a lot of patriarchal shit they need to work out within themselves that contribute to them being bad partners.