• bane_killgrind@slrpnk.net
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    It’s not about picking specific pronouns, though. People want to be addressed in a manner consistent with their gender identity. What is your gender identity?

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        Could you provide an article or some description expanding on that? I don’t know how that is a gender, instead of an occupation/ preference

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          Genders can be occupations too. Womanhood spent several thousand years being basically equal to domestic servant. And have you ever heard the line “join the army and become a man”? Among the Bugis people of indonesia, “priest” is a nonbinary gender.

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              Well, drag is an anarcho-communist, is engaged to marry drag’s pet dragon, likes all forms of science fiction and fantasy, is a wizard, prefers power metal over most other genres of music, and thinks Python lends itself too easily to non-OOP designs. Anything more specific you’d like to know?

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                No, it seems like you identify in a non-binary way and they/them would be an appropriate way to address you.

                This isn’t saying you should or shouldn’t be addressed in a specific way, I’m saying it’s not clear what your gender identity is. You’ve stated an occupation, not a gender. I don’t want to get into how I disagree that gender can be an occupation, but you haven’t said anything about how an occupation can be a gender.

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                  They/them, which is a gender neutral pronoun, would be an appropriate way to refer to drag, if there weren’t any pronouns that refer specifically to dragon riders. But since there are, they/them is about as appropriate for drag as it is for an average man or woman. Drag thinks you’ve misunderstood the they/them pronoun. It doesn’t refer specifically to nonbinary people, it refers to any group or person lacking specified gender. Drag is not lacking specified gender, drag’s gender is very specified.

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                    15 days ago

                    You can refer to men or women as they, as you are not specifying a gender with the world “they”

                    So you are making up grammar rules, this has nothing to do with gender. Bye.