• vapeloki@lemmy.world
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    26 天前

    I am poly, so, I have no troubles with this. As long as they keep separate bedroom action, I don’t see the issue

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      26 天前

      Lukewarm take: If they consent, they can do what they want, and share the bedroom if they would want that.

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        25 天前

        I would have an issue with it, personally, because related. But this would be my personal limit

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      26 天前

      Maybe it’s just me but I feel like an AMA from your perspective as a poly individual would be very interesting, as long as folks were respectful.

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        26 天前

        No, it is a very unhealthy community that lies to outsiders trying to make it sound like the paradise it will never be.

        There are so many layers to always have to peel with poly groups.

        They are almost always young and it never lasts.

        Just do yourself a favour and avoid those thought virus’.

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          26 天前

          I have zero interest in becoming poly, exploring the idea, etc. it doesn’t appeal to me at all. But from a sociological standpoint, it’s very interesting to me personally to consider the dynamics of those relationships and to understand how they can vary from person to person, group to group.

          I don’t have any experience with that community but I promise you that painting with a broad brush like you’re doing is wrong. You don’t know this individual. You’re assuming the worst without ever engaging in conversation with them personally. Unless you do know this person in which case I apologize.

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            22 天前

            I go with normal expectations, and have enough experience to know, this is a good generality.

            On an individual level this can change, but the main pattern persists outside of an individual basis

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          26 天前

          It can be unhealthy. But, it truly depends on the people and their reasons for doing it. You can’t just blanket apply statements to people.

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          25 天前

          This comment brought me to: yes, there should be an AMA!

          Srsly, polyamorous relationships are a complex beast. And no, they are not better or worse then other relationship models. They are just different.