I’m 20F, he’s 25M. We met in January and have been dating since last month. He’s already met my parents - they love him, and he hangs out at our house all the time. Literally no one has any issues with him, he’s super welcome here. I invited him to sleep over for a few days this week just for fun, but he said he’s not comfortable with it - apparently it feels too “intimate” for him? Like, he’s got this thing about doing private stuff with other people around. I just want him to relax a bit. We’re all adults here, and everyone knows people have private lives. How can I help him feel more okay with it?
People who downvote and don’t comment why they disagree are cowards in my book, btw.
I didn’t downvote but I think the “something more is going on with him” has a nefarious tone and seems unwarranted for something as innocuous as not wanting to share a bed with a new partner inside her parents’ home.
True I worded it weirdly.
Bad take
It’s normal to not want to hang out with your partners parents.
They’re not dating mommy and daddy, mommy and daddy shouldn’t be a part of your romantic relationships.
Yeah, for 20 year olds maybe- ah, now I remember what post I commented this other. OK that’s fair. If you’re like 40 years old and still say “I don’t want to spend any time with my in-laws at all” I personally would consider that weird though.