I (23M) was sitting on a bench drawing and a girl sat on the same bench, then she started talking about my drawings, I said a few words about them, but I started to feel that I was getting very nervous, and after some phrases i just stood up and walked away to another part of the park. A few minutes later I saw her heading my way again. But when she saw me her face became sad and she turned around and walked back the other way. Now i feel so awful about all this ,I didn’t mean for this to happen but it kinda did. I want to ask people any advice of how to overcome this fears so this is not happened again. For the context i didnt have any genuine converstation with girls in 8-9 years, and i didnt have this problem with males

  • stinky@redlemmy.com
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    23 hours ago

    Everyone is entitled to their privacy. It’s a basic human right. If you were alone and then a stranger approached you, you have every right to move away. You didn’t do anything wrong.

    It’s an unfortunate situation because it seems like she regretted it too, but that’s not on you. You did not cause that.

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      22 hours ago

      You are right, but i was just afraid because she was a female, and as a said i didnt have any interaction with women in 8-9, except formal ones, like in university or stores and etc. i think you get it. And the thing is i dont know why was i feeling that much nervous when she started talking to me, but i want to overcome that and i dont really know how…

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        21 hours ago

        It’s ok to be afraid and still do something. Challenge yourself to try a question, people love to talk and that means you don’t have to.