and how do you deflect prying questions about you and limit these rituals to 2 minutes instead of wasting 30 minutes?
asking as somebody who, if not on the spectrum, is socially awkward, likes solitude, boundaries and to be left alone (to do the job)
I still believe none of your answers is going to help me because neurotypical solutions don’t work for me but I have nothing to lose with this question.
Could you give me an example of a prying question you got asked?
I find most people overshare unnecessarily. I’m always telling me wife and kids not to give detail (with examples of how to avoid it) and have gotten very good at giving minimal detail.
Example: my wife has been in hospital for weeks. It’s not something she’d want people to know about.
My mother in law was all “what are you going to tell people?” and I just said “nothing”. So when I do have to bring it up I say “she’s been in hospital a few weeks and will be another few more but she’ll be fine”. That last part I add to deflect in advance.
Only one person has had the gall to ask for more information and I told them I’d tell them over a pint some time (i.e. would you ever fuck off with that).