I’m often disappointed with myself when I’m angry. It feels like, “a stronger person wouldn’t be mad at this” or “I’m fragile/insecure”. Anger has been the hardest emotion to live with; it just feels wrong.

I always need external validation from others during/after anger. And worse, I need an endless supply of it.

Learning to validate myself is the obvious solution but I don’t have a clue where to start. A self-help book would just sit on a shelf. Do you have any tips?

  • stinky@redlemmy.comOPEnglish
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    2 days ago

    forgiveness isn’t FOR the other person, it is FOR you This makes perfect sense to me. It’s like prayer; it only changes you. Some people don’t need it. I’m still suffering though. I need to be practicing forgiveness.

    • Colonel_Panic_@eviltoast.org
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      17 hours ago

      Also, it’s hard to just remove something from your life. It’s easier to replace it. Try to intentionally focus on positive things and find some things you enjoy and focus on those. Pet a cat, draw something, grow a plant, go on a nature hike, make something, do something nice for a friend or family member, or even a complete stranger.

      Try to let go and accept what you can’t control.

      Fix what you can control.

      Don’t get mad at the clouds because it is raining, get an umbrella.

      💜