cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3389091

or to keep the peace, maybe you think it’s not a big deal but your partner, friend, coworker, parent feels otherwise.

Do you apologize just to validate him?

I always though if I don’t feel bad about it, fuck it, I’m not apologizing, deal with it. It’s not my fault you’re so thin skinned. Grow up.

Now I’m thinking I should be more empathetic and apologize, just to make the aggravated person feel validated, even though I don’t feel bad (or that bad).

This gets more complicated because many times coworkers feel offended because I don’t share my personal life with them or I’m so concentrated on my job that I don’t notice them. Do I apologize for not noticing them?

  • monovergent 🛠️@lemmy.ml
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    3 days ago

    In principle, I wouldn’t. In practice, it’s gotten better over the past few years, but I’m still sometimes a bit of a people-pleaser. Sometimes it’s reflexive and I’ll have to catch myself before a wayward “sorry” slips out of my mouth.