at least with the reddit way, the victim can put up hurdles to prevent the harasser from coming into their comments and flooding them with foul shit.
How? One new account that blocks the victim and it’s exactly what you’re arguing against, except now the user doesn’t get the choice to ignore it or fight back. It’s completely invisible to them.
With how it works here, it’s the victim’s choice to endure it or isolate themselves from it. Do you not see how that’s better?
except the victim doesn’t have the choice to endure it or isolate themselves, they only have the choice to blind themselves. The attacker still gets to spread lies and rumours in the victim’s very own comment section - the harassment still continues even if the victim cannot see it.
not every community is that of online strangers, some people actually know eachother IRL, or in some capacity outside of lemmy.
You’re hinging on the wrong part. The only difference between the scenarios laid out is who has the choice. In the one you are arguing for, the choice is in the hands of the harasser.
because in the way it works now, all the victim can do is shut their eyes and pretend. thats a choice, but its not much of one.
in the scenario I’m supporting, the victim can stop their harasser from doing the harassment directly on their front lawn (eg in the comments to their own posts, in the replies to their threads). thats a more impactful choice.
I’m not saying that lemmy should get rid of muting, I’m saying that I shouldn’t depend on a mod to kick someone out of the whole community just to get relief from them saying shit in my own comments.
oh thats rich.
let me quote to you every reply you’ve given me so far in this thread. this will be a good laugh.
They would be, though. That’s exactly what they’re saying could happen - you just wouldn’t be able to see it. In effect, what they described is exactly what you’re claiming to be a problem, except worse because it’s exclusively in control of the harasser.
how would preventing the harasser from commenting on my posts give the harasser more control than letting them comment on my post?
How? One new account that blocks the victim and it’s exactly what you’re arguing against, except now the user doesn’t get the choice to ignore it or fight back. It’s completely invisible to them.
With how it works here, it’s the victim’s choice to endure it or isolate themselves from it. Do you not see how that’s better?
You still haven’t explained how control is being handed to the harasser. In fact, you said the victim is getting blocked, so I’m not clear who you even consider to be the victim here. And in fact, it doesn’t need to be invisible to them.
You’re hinging on the wrong part. The only difference between the scenarios laid out is who has the choice. In the one you are arguing for, the choice is in the hands of the harasser.
again, you haven’t explained how control is being handed to the harasser
I have. Multiple times.
no, you have not.
and that is every reply that I can find that you sent to me.
but meanwhile I actually went into detail about who would be able to do what, and what that would mean for both parties.
so… thats pretty embarrassing for you.
I know it can be difficult to keep things straight with so many threads going on, but have a bit of humility.
How? One new account that blocks the victim and it’s exactly what you’re arguing against, except now the user doesn’t get the choice to ignore it or fight back. It’s completely invisible to them.
With how it works here, it’s the victim’s choice to endure it or isolate themselves from it. Do you not see how that’s better?
except the victim doesn’t have the choice to endure it or isolate themselves, they only have the choice to blind themselves. The attacker still gets to spread lies and rumours in the victim’s very own comment section - the harassment still continues even if the victim cannot see it.
not every community is that of online strangers, some people actually know eachother IRL, or in some capacity outside of lemmy.
You’re hinging on the wrong part. The only difference between the scenarios laid out is who has the choice. In the one you are arguing for, the choice is in the hands of the harasser.
care to elaborate on that?
because in the way it works now, all the victim can do is shut their eyes and pretend. thats a choice, but its not much of one.
in the scenario I’m supporting, the victim can stop their harasser from doing the harassment directly on their front lawn (eg in the comments to their own posts, in the replies to their threads). thats a more impactful choice.
I’m not saying that lemmy should get rid of muting, I’m saying that I shouldn’t depend on a mod to kick someone out of the whole community just to get relief from them saying shit in my own comments.
I have. Multiple times.
oh thats rich.
let me quote to you every reply you’ve given me so far in this thread. this will be a good laugh.
how would preventing the harasser from commenting on my posts give the harasser more control than letting them comment on my post?
You still haven’t explained how control is being handed to the harasser. In fact, you said the victim is getting blocked, so I’m not clear who you even consider to be the victim here. And in fact, it doesn’t need to be invisible to them.
again, you haven’t explained how control is being handed to the harasser
no, you have not.
and that is every reply that I can find that you sent to me.
but meanwhile I actually went into detail about who would be able to do what, and what that would mean for both parties.
so… thats pretty embarrassing for you.
I know it can be difficult to keep things straight with so many threads going on, but have a bit of humility.
Yup, that’s what I said.
I feel like I’m speaking to Patrick Star.