For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.
On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.
From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.
Tbh I love my foreakin, it’s fun to play with and overall just enhances the penis having experience. 10/10 would recommend
I cant imagine my childhood baths without that little guy to play with. Peekaboo!
My 2¢: don’t
I was circumcised at birth by my parents, and it’s a source of frustration I have with them. Since it’s irreversible, there’s nothing I can do about it though.
Personally, I think circumcised penises look unnatural and weird.
The comments here are full of dicks.
American and uncircumcised here. Definitely don’t do it. The only reason it should ever be done is a case of phimosis so bad it can’t be fixed any other way.
I’m American and not circumcised, my wife and I chose not to circumcise our son because there really isn’t anything to gain from it. In my mind it’s no different than the removal of the hood from around a womans clitoris, it would cause a lot of pain and discomfort until the area is more “desensitized” by constant overstimulation. As someone that has only ever had a penis, and never a circumcised one, it’s all just speculation on my part.
We didn’t circumcise our son. It’s a barbaric practice and you shouldn’t do it. There’s absolutely no good reason to mutilate a child’s genitals, and it’s abhorrent that it’s so commonly practiced.
Genital mutilation is inexcusable disgusting tradition - don’t do it.
From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it?
Id like to answer your question with a few questions to reflect on: If social pressure is enough to make you consider going against your morals here, where is the line? What wouldn’t you compromise on? And in 20 years if he asks you about your decision, what will you tell him?
Definitely not but I’m not American.
Please do not mutilate your child because of tradition.
I’ve had women act kind of funny about it. Never had any complaints afterwards. I have sensitivity issues when i go long stretches of no sex (2+ weeks of I’m traveling) but if i use a cheap sleeve style sex toy in the shower just for a few minutes a day to keep the skin pliable and stretched.
I’ve never regretted not having it.
If you want your child to resent you for mutilating them with unnecessary surgery without their consent, go for it. If you want to be a good parent, don’t.
That’s a really broad and unfounded assumption that every circumcised boy grows up to resent their parents over it.
Don’t mutilate your kid. If there’s a medical reason go ahead, otherwise leave it be.
Your son can’t put it back if you remove it, but he can remove it if you leave it. Let it be his choice over his body.Do you want dick cheese? Because that’s how you get dick cheese.
No. Very pleased to have all my bits.
I worked in pediatric urology so I’ll give you their perspective first. The urologist’s assistant said the thing to do is assess honestly whether you’ll keep up with your child’s hygiene, if you are comfortable ensuring they’ll clean their foreskin as they grow up. My friend says she really had to stand over her son and tell him to wash his penis again and again. Boys are not the best at hygiene sometimes, so as long as you are comfortable ensuring he does so, don’t circumcise. If you don’t think you’ll be comfortable with that, be realistic, because boys get what’s called phimosis where the foreskin becomes stuck and doesn’t retract, and while there’s a cream called betnovate you can apply to relieve this, if it becomes chronic and there’s scarring, having circumcision as an older child is much more of an ordeal, as they have to go under general anesthesia. These are the pros and cons.
I think circumcision is a bad idea and don’t recommend it myself because I’ve heard a baby crying during one personally and that’s horrifying, but this is what the medical reality of it is, so be honest with yourself about what you can do as a parent. It’s honestly a terrible thing for them to go through without anesthesia as well. Bullying be damned, anyone who is offended by a normal penis isn’t worth your time anyway.
I think you’ve provided the most valuable comment in this thread
