Social skill. Havent learnt it since
This post rather got me questioning what skills or talents I have. None.
So I guess all of them are taking me way longer. When I want to learn something, I usually end up spiralling into thoughts that it’s too late for me and I should have known that much sooner, like others did.
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I still suck at guitar after 26 years. It’s just 12 damn notes.
You really only need 3 chords played fast for punk. Keep it up, I believe in you!
Just learn to play the 4 chords so you can make a pop hit.
Same. 30 years.
Same here! It’s fun to make noise though
Took me a decade before strum patterns clicked. I still suck though.
11 notes really. 🤷♂️😅
Social interactions.
Tying a tie for meetings, interviews etc.
I’ve always had issues trying to do myself from “my angle” if you know what I mean, I’ve always worn light blue or grayish dress shirts without the tie to interviews, or I’d just leave the tie spaced out so I can shrink it again when I got around my neck.
Still trying to get the hang of it!
The ECS design pattern.
Oh you meant talent? Well I didn’t get my drivers license until I was 19.
Driving. I was 40 when I finally got my license.
Learning a new language. I normally pick things up pretty quickly, but learning a new language has been a slow slow process, but worth every second :)
Running. I don’t think I ran a consecutive mile until at least age 28, but now i love to run.
why?
i can run like 15 but i fucking hate every second of it. it’s so BORING.
A good playlist and somewhere interesting to explore make it great, but I also just love running. I bring running shoes when I travel: there’s nothing like running through a new city as a tourist.
That last bit gives me a ton of anxiety just thinking about it. Do you map out where you can run before you go to a new place? How do you just like run on the sidewalk if it ends up congested with too many people? Do you only run in nearby parks?
Sorry if these are weird questions! I legitimately want to know!
I always research unsafe areas for tourists when traveling to a new city, so when I run with my phone map I have a general idea of where I should avoid. Otherwise, I just turn down random streets, though populated and well lit ones. As to large crowds, I have only had this issue occasionally: just be ready to walk and don’t be a nuisance to others. If it’s a rural area, I mostly worry about surprise hills, not safety.
If it’s a foreign country I am especially cautious as running is not really a hobby in many places. I wanted to go for a run by myself in Guatemala, but eventually decided that i wouldn’t outside of very touristy areas or very rural areas. I had a great time running alone in downtown Montreal with minimal research. It depends on the country, so pay attention to local cultural norms and dress codes.
Reading an analogue clock face. I could do digital though.
Compassion. I used to be a terribly selfish person. Still mostly am.
so you’re a normal person then?
I’m a sideshow performer, have trained a variety of bizarre skills, but still can’t whistle.
So whistling
One day a couple years ago I decided to just learn it. I then tried to whistle for three months whenever I was alone and suddenly one day, it was whistling and not just wind-sounds.
Wait, you can learn whistling? I only can do a high pitched gym-teacher sounding whistle, which was very entertaining in gym class, but has since fallen off hard
Tying shoe laces. One day I could just do it without looking. Before then I couldn’t do it at all, way behind the class by about a year, an embarrassment to my parents.
Job… applications and interviews? The combination of constant rejection, fawning, self aggrandisement, and constantly changing arbitrary standards for all stages just does not gel at all with my combination of rejection sensitivity, slightly different fawning, self deprecation, and bucking against arbitrary social standards etc. I’ve only gotten one job ever from cold calling since I started applying in 2004. Every other time I’ve known someone, and it’s usually a few years between jobs
Skate stuff. Could never do anything more difficult than a static, barely decent Ollie. And I was a teen, lots of free time, I spent hours and hours and hours for weeks and months. Nothing.
Effort is not everything.
I am so glad I had no money, because I really wanted to be better and if I had to learn the lesson later in life I would have tried to “fix” it with high quality gear.
I started getting into music in 2017, couldn’t make a song for shit until 2023 I finally got to a decent spot. Though even then I have a lot of failed attempts still but I think that’s normal.
Hey that’s about when I started! And I also have a LOOOOT of awful stuff, but only now am I starting to occasionally make stuff that I don’t immediately hate.
Currently participating in Weekly Beats, which is something I’d never have considered even a year ago.
Of course, I’ll be learning the entire rest of my life, so…
