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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • Media has taught us that a first date involves drinking in a bar or restaurant, in part because of movie shorthand. (Dinner and drinks is a date, forget the rest of the evening, we just set the stage to imply the rest.)

    As many others have said, your normal is your normal. Don’t let society or Hollywood pressure you into dating ‘their way’.

    I met my wife on a date at a coffeehouse near here house. We then went to a pizza place across the street. No alcohol involved, but I did bring a board game into the restaurant with us.






  • What works for you, works for you.

    It may be possible to slowly wean yourself off of these behaviors that are worrying you. If it’s down to once a month, there isn’t as much of a jump to zero times a month, but maybe sometime. And then once it’s been a year, congratulate yourself for that and keep going.

    Habits are hard to break and much easier to fall into. But if you are more conscious of these decisions, it all becomes a little bit easier with time.

    That kind of mindfulness is a skill that is hard to develop, but your post leads me to think you’re already on your way.








  • I’m someone who builds up earwax easily, leading to infections.

    For the last decade, I’ve been regularly scraping it out with metal spoons. I’m even used to accidentally tapping my ear drum.

    Last time I was at my doctors he commented (to the intern in training) that my ear canals are well sloped and naturally clean themselves, and I corrected him. Glad to know he didn’t observe damage I’ve been causing.






  • Hour by hour, my job evolved from taking calls from clients who owed us money, to then answering questions from agents who weren’t as skilled at it as I was.

    In the process of being promoted, I was asked to join a daily meeting of over 100 people talking about the issues affecting our department.

    Once in a great while, something came up in that meeting that gave me the heads up to prevent chaos in our department and stress to members.

    There’s a whole shitload of cogs turning in modern corporations. There’s also a huge danger of people leaving and nobody understanding why the cogs are there.