Feeling a bit down tonight. How do you guys like to lighten up?
I fully acknowledge that it isn’t healthy but I drink or smoke weed. Playing with my dog and going on walks helps a lot too. Videogames when I have the attention span to play them is good too
I feel like a piece of shit who’s worthless and just makes life worse for everyone around me.
Can somebody please help me to feel better? :'(
You are with yourself 100% of the time. You can be a friend to yourself and try to help yourself out or you can kick the crap out of yourself which will not solve anything and in addition will make you miserable. What’s done is done, and you’ve clearly thought a lot about it and found your behavior unacceptable in those instances. You can incorporate those lessons and become a wiser person or you can punish yourself endlessly for your mistakes and get nothing. You aren’t good or bad, you are capable of doing good or doing bad.
Encrypting muffins is important work. I don’t know how to do it, so that makes you special.
:)
When I feel like that, it tends to be projection. I’m making myself sad and making my own life more difficult, not anyone else’s. I don’t know if that helps helps, but you probably don’t need much guilt about it.
Thank you. That actually does help. :)
Play this and get back to me on your fearsona. Mine is a little whippet.
Well shit. That hit deep.
Thank you.
I just played the whole thing…
…I’m gonna be honest. That was hard. But…it helped.
…I thank you. :)
Edit: By the way, mine is a common housecat, but one with grungy hair and a scaredy-cat disposition. ;)
Do remember- it really is trying to help. Negative self talk really is a useful social animal trait that’s just going a bit haywire, so figure out what its trying to do and be nice to it.
Also, pain can be experienced first as emotional distress, especially if its pain you’ve lived with for a long time, and its just hurting extra bad.
Sometimes its easier to do self-care when you picture it as outside of yourself.
So when you’re really feeling like shit, try acknowledging its concerns, rational or irrational, and then tell your little red cat its doing a good job and its safe to take a nap.It isn’t a magic fix, but its an actual process to go through. And that feels better than just stewing.
I quit looking at ALL news sites. And sleep. If I do this for a few days I feel so much better. Other healthy habits help too.
Shopping, alcohol, gambling, drugs. None of those is my answer.
I usually eat, drink, and watch Youtube until I’m tired and it makes things worse. Instead, play loud music and do chores, then exercise, then do something productive that you enjoy
For me, self care is:
A trip to IKEA
Reading
Putting phone on silent
Playing classical music
Eating IKEA meatballs
Long, hot shower
Getting a shave at the barber shop
Spending time with favourite person
Uber eats from a proper restaurant (not fast food)
Knitting/crocheting
Fixing something that’s broken (mechanical, not electrical)
Going for a gentle walk an hour before sunset when it’s less hot outside
IKEA is therapy
Been watching James May’s Our Man in India and it’s fantastic.
You could also try watching Bluey. Like, unironically it’s a fantastic show. Best way I’ve seen someone put it is that it’s a show for adults that children can watch.
I walk the high-line in NYC or sit by the water at Gantry Plaza State Park.
I go for a walk and to bed early.
Singing to your favorite songs
Meditate on the breath.
Mjuzik
Edibles and weird, interesting music. The more polyrhythmic the better.
Any polyrhythm suggestions?
Take a cold ass shower. After spending a few minutes yelling at myself for putting me in there. I remember to turn around many times so I get cold water all over. I feel a lot of relief when I do turn off the water and warm up. You can even make yourself warm tea and be nice to yourself after it.
That sounds healthy, right?
Cold showers are actually really nice after working out.
Make something. Doesn’t matter what. Write something, draw something, bake something, make noises with an instrument (even if you don’t know how to play it), sculpt some clay, cut some wood, anything. Play Minecraft even.
And don’t feel like you’re forcing yourself to do something, just give yourself a way to physically express how you’re feeling. You don’t have create something useful, you don’t have to show what you made to anyone, it’s about the process and it’s just for you.
I honestly believe humans have evolved an innate drive to create things, to see the physical world around them respond to their actions, even if they’re pointless. And I believe that when you don’t do this you will feel like something is missing.
