And it kind of undermines the discourse that we should respect people’s choice as to how they define themselves.

I do respect peoples choice, but in this case I make an exception. It’s him who denies people the right of identifying as themselves. He’s a homo-and transphobe who supports the notion that people should identify as they are born, and thus I comply. Once he changes his tune in that regard I will respect his.

It’s not like calling Trump Drumpf, Bowmans’ mother changed his name and after that he changed his own to not be reminded of the identity he was born with. I use his deadname to spite him on purpose.