This is the thing that is destroying the USA. I’m not even joking. We don’t have the things you’re talking about or places to do them for free. We have nowhere for kids to hang out, for people to exist for free, public access entertainment/bath houses/whatever the fuck.
We have nothing. Only what you can pay for and only extremely regimented.
We have lost even the idea of community because it has been made impossible in this country.
I have a local nature park that has poles with hooks for hammocks dispersed around the many miles of hiking trails, and they even let you use their hammocks for free. But the park is privately owned and charges a small annual fee for use.
I’ve got a church that i use as a place to play music and socialize (no one has ever asked about my beliefs but i have a local reputation as Weird (fair amount of musicians in the congregation though so got some Weird there), they’re just glad to have the music and I like free coffee, seeing friends, and getting to play) and i have a couple parks i busk at, and we’ve got a gorgeous farm out in the boonies on the other side of the next town over (so you know, just outside of battery range on my bike to get there and back) but like this is stuff i only know about because i’ve lived here all my damn life and make compromises like going to a (thank gods liberal) church
Can children go to these places alone? Can children do anything alone, actually? What if you don’t have a car?
I mean a society where you can easily walk to multiple different examples of several kinds of third space. Not where if you drive 30 min, you can get out into nature.
I miss having friends/family to cuddle with. My wife is fine, more than. But why can’t buddies just cuddle? Also, my oldest friend and I will platonically kiss. Our wives find it adorable, but I’ve been kissing this guy since preschool; why does it have to be seen as special?
Uh, that’s nice for you but I personally have 0 interest in cuddling or kissing buddies and never have. Hanging out is just fine. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re rather in the minority here.
I have a friend that I do that with, it’s pretty nice. Just get cozy like a childhood sleepover and put on some music or nonsense on the tv while we chill and chat.
Can we just normalize ‘come lay down somewhere and relax?’ That would be great. Thanks.
No chairs. No standing. Nothing weird. Just lay there and chill together. That is a social life I can participate in.
This is the thing that is destroying the USA. I’m not even joking. We don’t have the things you’re talking about or places to do them for free. We have nowhere for kids to hang out, for people to exist for free, public access entertainment/bath houses/whatever the fuck.
We have nothing. Only what you can pay for and only extremely regimented.
We have lost even the idea of community because it has been made impossible in this country.
I have a local nature park that has poles with hooks for hammocks dispersed around the many miles of hiking trails, and they even let you use their hammocks for free. But the park is privately owned and charges a small annual fee for use.
When I was over in the states there were plenty of parks and free activities. Plenty of people using them as well.
No more “third place”.
You’ve got home, you’ve got work (or school)… And that’s it.
Some people have church.
I’ve got a church that i use as a place to play music and socialize (no one has ever asked about my beliefs but i have a local reputation as Weird (fair amount of musicians in the congregation though so got some Weird there), they’re just glad to have the music and I like free coffee, seeing friends, and getting to play) and i have a couple parks i busk at, and we’ve got a gorgeous farm out in the boonies on the other side of the next town over (so you know, just outside of battery range on my bike to get there and back) but like this is stuff i only know about because i’ve lived here all my damn life and make compromises like going to a (thank gods liberal) church
Parks? Walking/hiking trails? Just wander off into national forest?
Uhhh, don’t we have city / county / state / national parks?
Can children go to these places alone? Can children do anything alone, actually? What if you don’t have a car?
I mean a society where you can easily walk to multiple different examples of several kinds of third space. Not where if you drive 30 min, you can get out into nature.
Hey man, youre ruining the circle jerk.
Ohshit, sorry, sorry. 🥰
What about glory holes?
Yes your mother’s bedroom is fair game.
The US has turned into Ferenginar so gradually I didn’t even notice!
I miss having friends/family to cuddle with. My wife is fine, more than. But why can’t buddies just cuddle? Also, my oldest friend and I will platonically kiss. Our wives find it adorable, but I’ve been kissing this guy since preschool; why does it have to be seen as special?
Uh, that’s nice for you but I personally have 0 interest in cuddling or kissing buddies and never have. Hanging out is just fine. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re rather in the minority here.
They’re making a joke i think lol
If so, it’s not my humor I guess.
I have a friend that I do that with, it’s pretty nice. Just get cozy like a childhood sleepover and put on some music or nonsense on the tv while we chill and chat.
Man, I remember every weekend I’d have two or three friends all weekend, we’d all sleep on my bed. I miss those days. My bones hurt.
Calm down there, Richard Stallman.
Third place