My ex “K” just broke up with me. She said she would like to still be friends, though, and since the breakup was friendly, I gladly said I was fine with that.
You both need a time off, stop or make interactions really “rational and controlled”. It takes time to shift to different dynamic between you two.
Once you both (or at least one of you) get new partners, things will be more promising for a genuine friendship.
Otherwise, lingering feelings or “emotionally weak” days seriously risk ruining the relationship and make things permanently awkward.
source: my own experience. I am best friends with my ex. And lived the process myself.
Yeah. We text occasionally and she might visit on the way through the state soon. It’s not a close friendship but we like staying in touch
I usually just have flings. But I’m still friends with some of them.
All of them yes. I make it a point to get back on friendship terms so there aren’t any open wounds or resentments festering. I want to wish them the best, so I do.
No
One easy way to avoid this predicament is moving across the ocean. You never have to particular relatives either. Move across the ocean immediately. Never turn back
It is so great absolutely NEVER running into someone from high school.
Im actually the kind to say when you break up move on. Still being friends is a recipe for many disasters. Especially once you’re in a long term or get married
Are you still friends with any of your axes
FTFY and yes
Me and my ex wife get along better now than we did when we were married
I still talk to my ex-wife since we had kids together. They are adults now so it’s a lot less that we talk but still amicable.
I have some exes that I wanted to and could be friends with (one I was for several years). But it just doesn’t fly with a new domestic partnership. I can tell my current girlfriend that I’m going to see female friends, but going out with friends who I’ve previously had sexual relations with is stretching it. I wouldn’t want my girlfriend to do that and so I won’t do it to her.
It makes me a bit sad, but I have effectively ended those friendships by no longer agreeing to seeing them.
I also have exes that I wouldn’t wish on my biggest enemy and I avoid them like the plague.
No but not due to hostility. We just don’t talk anymore the way you don’t talk to some old friends anymore, ie just drifted apart. All my breakups have luckily been amicable.
I posted this a while ago, but my ex and I ended up on a 7 hour time difference and that level of LDR is really hard, so our final date was updating each other’s dating profiles. It was very amicable, simply recognizing that it was the situation not the person that caused us to not be together.
not really anymore, but only for usually drifting apart from old friends reasons. it is hard (for me) to maintain friendships when the other party lives thousands of kilometers away, and everyone is too poor and busy to travel.
Depends.
Some I cultivated afterwards - gave some space, and later pitched a “I don’t want to get back together but I miss hanging out. Lemme buy coffee” to usually good effect. If you’re compatible as friends still, it could be a very strong friendship. But you broke up for a reason, so keep that in mind.
But sometimes you’re really incompatible and a simple friendship isn’t even health for you two. That’s okay too.
