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    9 months ago

    Refusing to use nail polish remover to clean off permanent marker because that’s “for women”. It’s acetone, my dude, acetone.

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    9 months ago

    Guys who refuse to wash their arse because it’s “gay”.

    The sheer amount of self-hatred, insecurity and homophobia caused by toxic masculinity and shitty upbringings is astounding that you’d rather have swamp ass than be worried you’re gay.

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    Tell his wife that he loved her, because love is “gay” and “feminine”

    Firstly, audibly expressing your heterosexuality isn’t gay.
    Secondly, there is nothing feminine about 2 guys loving each other, they are both guys so it’s the most masculine sexual/romantic pairing.

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        Yeah, working in a factory was full of the bullshit like this, but this was the weirdest example. Things that boiled down to “No, I can wear less protective equipment than you!” were very common.

        Even if you take the “gay argument” out of things, why would you let a group of 4 divorced guys give you relationship advice?

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    Besides physical violence, the most absurd thing I’ve seen was a man who bought a car after his wife pleaded not to because it would bankrupt them. He didn’t like that she was “telling him what to do.” They had two perfectly fine vehicles btw.

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    Once worked with a guy who refused to wash dishes, said that is a woman’s responsibility. He only uses paper plates and plastic utensils.

    I never asked him if he cooked but kind of figure it’d the be same answer LOL.

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      That is so bizarre. Cooking and cleaning aren’t women’s responsibilities, they are adult responsibilities.

      What separates things out is the degree of implementation.

      A reasonable man will slap together a simple and hearty yet healthy meal with 2-3 separate items on a plate. A lot of women will jack that shit up to 11 and make it a 3-course meal.

      A reasonable man will clean until things are clean to the needs of the situation. If it’s a plate, it’s until it is clean enough to safely eat off of. If it’s a barn floor, clearly those standards are a lot lower; be happy if you see a broom come out. A lot of women will insist on surgical-room cleanliness regardless of the location.

      A man should never have any reluctance to cooking and cleaning. It’s called basic adulting. What we need to watch out for is to align our efforts to the needs and conditions of the situation. We men are here to be practical.

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        You really should have stopped after the first paragraph it just devolved from there on.

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          You really should have stopped after the first paragraph it just devolved from there on.

          Ah, yes. Because real-world experience is just so passé.

          Sorry for intruding into your ideology with facts and reality.

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            We men are here to be practical.

            So as the non-toxic arbiter of facts and reality, what exactly are women here for?

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              what exactly are women here for?

              Why TF would I have any say in that? I’m a man, not a woman. I just observe how they behave and act, and take note of common trends and broad patterns.

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                Since you’re specifying that men are here to be practical, you’re saying that woman are not practical:

                What we need to watch out for is to align our efforts to the needs and conditions of the situation.

                Do you see why that’s a toxic attitude to have?

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                  Since you’re specifying that men are here to be practical, you’re saying that woman are not practical

                  You are hitting a surprisingly large number of logical fallacies with that statement. Nowhere did I say anything to that, I strongly suggest checking your own biases for that source.

                  Do you see why that’s a toxic attitude to have?

                  Of course that’s a toxicity that has been externally imposed on men. Chris Rock was absolutely correct with his quote - a man who isn’t providing something of value is seen as useless. So in order to avoid going down “unproductive” paths that provide no value or utility to our betters, men have to always be providing value; to not waste time and energy on things that aren’t useful.

                  You see this everywhere in Nature, where males provide value through demonstrations of genetic fitness via gaudy displays that require effort and internal resources to pull off. Without those displays of fitness, they have absolutely no value and the females utterly ignore them.