Doesn’t have to be about over traumatic-related things, but just in general, things you don’t like talking about. Whether it’ll bum you down, distract you or vice versa.
I don’t like talking about work, my job and how the week went. All it’ll do and has done, is make me dread of upcoming work weeks even during my time off. I hate being asked the typical question “how was your day at work?” any other time. Because the answer is just going to be unsatisfying and I get annoyed even having to answer that question. It’s not that I’m hiding anything, it’s just that it’s fucking work and it is the same damn thing every night. I put up with stupid fucking people, even dumber co-workers and I work in a system that is massively ungrateful for what you do for it.
That’s all you’ll ever need to know about it, so stop trying to get me to talk about that shit.
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Unless it’s about soulslikes, I don’t wanna talk about it.
vibecoding/ai bs
I hate the word “vibecoding.”
The future, and how everything sucks now compared to the past, and how much worse it will get
Because all of that is true 😔 I’d rather stay in my “living in 2003” bubble. I’ll go out to vote and then come back to hide again.
I’m exaggerating as I tend to do. But there aren’t any discussions of the future that don’t leave me depressed
I’m sick of listening to people complain about their lives. They hate their jobs, they hate their spouses, they hate their friends. They are unfulfilled and unhappy and IF ONLY THEY WERE RICH everything would be magically wonderful. The past few years, now everyone talks about how ‘oppressed’ they are because of their identity too. I’ve met so many single women doctors who just go on for an hour about how ‘oppressed’ they are because they only make $480K/yr instead of the 500K their married male colleague does… and how if only they made more they’d never have to fly coach again! Or how expensive and awful their kids private education is, or how their wife prevents them from buying that Raptor truck they really want, because some overpriced performance vehicle will magically fix their shitty lifestyle habits and social relationships…
Oh, and as a single white guy, they love to lecture me on how amazing and awesome and rich and perfect my life must be. Because apparently I have ‘no responsibilities lots of free time and money and freedom and can fuck whomever i want whenever i want’. Right…
Do they ever ask me how my life is? No, of course not. I’m just a placeholder for their weird escapist fantasy they have because they hate their own lives so much. And if I start mentioning any basic facts about my life, they think I’m whining or ‘bitter’ or something because my life is and was far less privileged than theirs.
This is like 90% of my dates, and other casual social interactions with new people. 10 years ago it wasn’t like this. People used to ask me questions and interact with me… now they just lecture me about how their life is terrible and mine is better than theirs and I’m a jerk because of it. I miss talking to people about books, or movies, or hobbies.
Hence I really have stopped going out and interacting with people like I used to. At least with my existing friends I can tell them about events in my life that are good or bad without them acting like I’m an asshole. The last date I went on I told my date about the book I was reading and she looked at me like I was a jerk and then immediately started complaining about how her ex read books and was a douchebag and she doesn’t like douchy people who read a lot…
I feel like people no longer interact generally. I notice even when I’m out and hearing other people’s conversations they sort or talk at each other in quips rather than actually acknowledge or exchange anything substantial. It’s been years since I’ve had like an actual conversation with a stranger that showed genuine interest.
ime, you got to do a bit of pre-filtering for common interests and shit, before deciding to socialize with people.
to me it sounds like your going to some upper-class urban bars (or going dating events…which imo are even worse than meeting people out in the wild) and naturally run into unawares people stuck in the capitalist rat-race, who you can’t relate to. could try going to smaller punk dive bars, or some kind of themed party-type bar.
or better yet to go to some less “mainstream” hobby-event, whatever that interest might be, atleast there you will have atleast 1 guaranteed interest to relate over that isnt just complaining about how much your life sucks (which seems to be a common thing at bars)
That’s every bar. Every hobby group. There are no people here who aren’t upper class.
Technically I am upper class too. I just wasn’t born into it, so I’m not a whiny bitch about my life. I think it’s great. I don’t think my life is a tragedy because I don’t own two vacation homes and a yacht.
I hate punks. Here they are all whiny entitled rich trust fund kids who think you’re a douche for having to work a job that pays a living wage while they cosplay as poor waiting for their trust funds to mature. They also love to lecture you about anarchism and how you are oppressed because you don’t have tattoos and piercings. I also hate punk music, it’s boring and whiny.
when it comes to bars, the best ones ime only open once a week or less (especially punk live music bars). a local dive bar that only opens once or twice a month will attract different crowd than some daily bar.
far as your “demographic” goes…where are you at if you don’t mind me asking? there’s always an underbelly of working stiffs in any area, rich people don’t clean their own toilets or prepare their own food…somebody in the area has to be working to maintain/service everything
dude none of that exists where i live. there are no dive bars. sounds like you live in some rustbelt place where rent is dirt cheap.
the working stiffs don’t live here. they commute to here from 2 hours away. they can’t afford the housing prices. they also think i’m a douchebag because I can afford the housing prices and I go to fancy douche bars. the bartenders and waitstaff all commute in from places 2 hours away. my dog walker commutes in from 2 hours away, etc.
and i’m not going to move 2 hours away. I love my job and I love being 15m from my office.
chicago
Any personal project I’m doing. Talking about it seems to give enough satisfaction to keep me away from continuing it later.
I’ve been vegan for nearly ten years, I dread any time the topic comes up with people who aren’t also vegan.
It usually becomes a pointless debate where I either have to heavily self-censor, or end up hurting the feelings of people who eat animal products. It’s always the same conversations I’ve already had hundreds of times, no one’s gonna change my mind and I probably won’t change theirs either.
It’s kind of unfortunate because I always want to ask details with what I believe is an open mind. However people are naturally cautious against going there.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not interested in going vegan but as an omnivore I can appreciate any source of good food and sometimes choose vegan ones. And as someone who wants to entertain, I want to be able to provide good choices for you to enjoy
Now if only I can figure out vegan meals that would do well in my smoker!
I probably won’t change theirs either.
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People’s kids, especially toddlers/babies. Like, I’m so sorry but I literally could not give any less fucks. Even those I consider family, I’m like tolerant of but I don’t want to sit and have a whole ass conversation about what your kid did at daycare. Talk to me when they’re older and doing actual cool shit.
I think one very scary thing to admit is when a mother has this feeling towards their baby. Sometimes, the movie magic just doesn’t hit; and it feels like an annoying, parasitic burden rather than a precious living human.
But to be in any way vocal about it makes one seem like a horrible or evil mother, and could lead to intense ostracization.
As someone with a three and a half year old who goes to daycare, who sometimes does finger-painting, or sings songs, and tells stories about being pushed by this girl named Farron, all I can say is haha I fucking got you, you read about my kids day and now yours is ruined lolololol.
Oh god this.
I’m sure parenting a young child feels really isolating. But YOU chose to isolate yourself. I didn’t.
It is so fucking tempting to ask every single person in this thread to elaborate lol
I don’t like talking about anything if I don’t get a reflective silence now and then. Some people just talk and talk to hear themselves talk and never take the time to let the words sink in or just plain cook before spitting them out.
am currently forced via circumstance to live with a person like this…motherfucker never shuts up or says anything of consequence.
just constant soap opera bullshit, former rich-person who probably watched too much tv growing up now down on their luck.
always going on about how X person he ran into that day was an asshole for some arbitrary social slight (when that person was probably just someone working, who wanted this talker to leave em the fuck alone)
As someone who moved from the US to Canada, where I come from. I was born in a Latin American country and speak fluent Spanish so I introduce myself with that first and foremost out of spite
Can’t say.
My blood family. Its just always the same and it frustrates me only thinking about them, their actions, their thinking, their behaviours. Calling them snakes and sociopaths is insulting to snakes!!
Anything “deep” with parents…
“Hey dad did you know that if you go on a space ship and travel very fast then come back to earth, thousands or tens of thousands of years could pass on earth and it only feels like a few hours on the spaceship”
Dad: “Oh really? Cooool” sounds disinterested af and continues scrolling wechat
“Hey mom did you know that scientists detected that a brain has activity before the person makes a decision? Maybe we don’t have free will and the universe is deterministic!”
Mom: “Of course we have free will! Why are you overthinking everything? 日日諗埋諗埋啲咁嘅嘢，一味鑽牛角尖 (not sure how to translate this part, something like ‘Everyday you keep thinking these weird thoughts, keep going down a rabbit hole’)”
Also I can’t really mention suicide… or I’m “ungreatful for everything they’ve done for me”
Also politics:
“Why are you so worried about big things, just focus on yourself”
“If the government comes knocking and arrest you, then it’s your fault, just don’t drag us down with you” (aka: just don’t dissent)
I’m convinced the methodology on that decision study is flawed. Decision making isn’t an instantaneous process, it takes time for the mind to settle on an option. That neurological ramping up is the decision making.
This just in: New evidence suggests some people think before making a decision? We’ll tell you what this means for your weekend at 11.
Now what I want to see is if M1 neurons begin to show increased activity before someone thinks about getting up to go pee, but decides to hold it in. Because if so, it’s pretty clear that the decision making process simply involves motor neurons readying themselves in case they’re needed. But if they don’t, then it means the motor cortex is contributing to the decision making process, and that’s an actually informative result.
Well, now I’m curious as well. If I only kind of have to pee, like I just noticed it, it feels entirely voluntary to hold it, but if I really have to pee, it does feel like one one part of my brain is sending “pee now” signals that another part of my brain, the conscious decision-making part, has to fight against, which makes me think they have to get involved in the decision somehow. Maybe that physical motor control fight just is how those two parts of the brain mediate each other. Neat.
And what we’re doing right now is good science. We’re operationalising our variables and making testable predictions, deciding what the possible results could mean before we conduct the experiment and see them.
Saying “Neuron activity before a decision is made disproves free will” is bad science, because “free will” is being implicitly operationalised in a very opinionated way, and it’s not exactly clear what the experimenter thinks a null hypothesis result would look like.
I don’t think neuroscience can tell us whether free will exists, because “free will” is too difficult to operationalise in a way everyone would agree with. For example, many people think if our actions are predetermined based on our environment, it means no free will. But I think if our actions are random, that’s not free will, and predetermined actions would make Me feel much freer. I want to know that My mind behaves consistently, that makes Me feel in control. Many disagree. This disagreement can’t be resolved with science.
Oddly culturally specific 😅 I love the perspective! ❤️
People. I do find things like group psychology interesting but discussing individuals is mind-numbingly uninteresting. Especially celebrity gossip but political figures are a close second.
the most i bother with celebrity stuff is lamenting when another actor/actress fucks their face/body up with bad plastic surgery.
they (they being our general society/entertainment industry, which is mostly designed around exploiting insecurities it seems) got to jim carey recently…rip
Work or myself. The second someone tries to make a conversation about either, I just shut down and give 1 or 2 word answers. I find work incredibly boring and I don’t have anything interesting going on in my life.
You got any hobbies?
