Mine was from my mother: “Never cry for a man. He’ll never cry for you.”
You won’t be everyone’s friend.
Along with “don’t chase after people who aren’t interested” and “you don’t like everybody, not everybody will like you”.
Genuinely has been so helpful to keep in mind every time I reach out to make connections but get ignored, brushed off or rejected. There will be people who reciprocate my friendship, who recognize my value and enjoy my company and I can use my energy on those relationships.
There’s two people you never lie to: your doctor and your lawyer.
That’s terrible. I, as a man, have cried for women, have cried for male friends,… I have cried on many occasions. I’ve seen huge guys snicker in sorrow.
Anyway, you don’t cry for some one else. Crying helps you to cope with your feelings.
I guess your mother was Hurt bad to give zich a voor advice.
Dad: “Only break one law at a time”
Dad: “A job can give you three things: Good pay, learn useful new skills, and a comfortable and enjoyable place to work. If you aren’t getting at least two of those things, look for another job.”
Mum didn’t really give advice, but I probably would have done a lot more dumb shit if not for her guiding me not to.
“Work problems are the easiest ones”
Not as a kid, but as a young adult entering the workforce:
Never trade shifts with anyone.
When I heard this advice, I thought that this would be a dick move, because you are supposed to help out each other, since everyone appears to be in the same position (or metaphorically in the same boat). But some time later I witnessed what was meant: I had two coworkers that engaged in a shift-trade. One of the coworkers had an appointment and so he asked another coworker if they can switch shifts. The other one agreed to cover the shift, but he never got the favor back, as if that agreement never took place.
It turns out, that at work, everyone ist fighting for himself, and you should, too, catering to your own interests.
I used to work in bars and restaurants for years. We’ve traded shifts quite often. I had many favours returned.
Later I worked in housing safety. We had to do lots of inspections, frequently far from home. We switched assignments all the time. No issues there.
It’s possible that there are times in which nobody can cover for you but don’t always account it to malice.
Life is long. Make sure you build up credit.
I know this is anecdotal, but I’ve seen the inverse of this numerous times personally - In fact I’ve had colleagues offer to take difficult shifts for me without me asking as they knew I was having difficulties in the family.
Not everyone is out for themselves.
From my mum “whatever you do in life we will be here to support you”
From my dad “dont be a dickhead”
Its hard not to be a dickhead there are so many times I’m stuck between standing up for myself or letting things slide. I think ive learnt how to find the balance but i still miscalculate occasionally.
One that’s come up a lot for me went something like “people don’t think about you much, they’re all focused on their own life and problems, you’re just in the background”. I have a tendency to nervously overthink other people’s reactions, which is why it was brought up, but it has lots of other applications too.
My dad told me, “It is a sin not to live up to your potential.”
He’s not a religious person I think he just wanted to explain how heavy it may have weighed in his own mind, but we both support my mother’s idea of heaven and on occasion go to church with her at a nice church with a good community where they live. I don’t like religion but I do like open minded communities that support themselves as well as people they think differently than.
Anyways I’ve added more openminded sounding meanings to it over my life like, considering opportunities of each individual and “live up to” can mean just being a person of integrity.
In fifth grade my teacher retired halfway through the year. He did nothing wrong, it was just his time to retire. So he taught half the year while training his replacement to take over. He is one of the best teachers I ever had.
On his last day he left us with this piece of advice.
“Credit Cards are a scam.” Then he explained in detail how they can be used to trap you in debt and keep you struggling. He said always use cash when you can, otherwise don’t buy what you can’t afford.
That was the only financial advice I ever got in all of my 12 years of schooling.
True, I only use them for convenience. I have extended warranty and travel insurance included in my credit card. But I never buy on credit. I just use the card as a payment method.
The problem is that credit cards can be useful, but you need to have a certain mindset with money to have them. If money is an one-off switch instead of a number, you’re going to be ruined by debt.
Dad was teaching my sister and I to cross the street and told us to look both ways.
We were crossing a one-way road at the time and I asked “Do we need to look both ways on a one-way road?”
He said “People are idiots, you look both ways.”
Good advice, and by extension also the fundamental of defensive driving - assume every other driver on the road is crazy or incompetent.
- Just because someone is signalling to turn, it doesn’t mean they will
- Just because someone isn’t signalling to turn, it doesn’t mean they won’t
- Assume people will run red lights
- Assume people will jump on the brakes for no reason
- Assume anyone will change lanes at any time without even looking
I’m sure my driving got a lot safer from thinking like that
I completely agree.
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This summer. Twice. Crossing a one way street just as a car goes zooming through in the wrong direction
And its corollary. Never assume a red light will stop the cars. Always look.
Also very helpful when you travel to countries with left-hand traffic (or right-hand traffic depending on which way you are used to). The first couple days cars are constantly coming from the wrong side.
What a fuckin’ weird piece of advice.
Not at all toxic and loaded
The capital city of Jordan won’t shed a single tear for any of us!
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Whenever someone gifts you something, just say “Thank you very much” and accept the gift. Don’t do the “are you sure” or “oh no you shouldn’t have” dance.
Lmao that’s every Chinese New Year ever. The red packet exchange is just so awkward and weird (IMO) and completely pointless.
Like Family A’s parents gives Family B’s kid $100 then Family B’s parents give Family A’s two children each $50 (totalling $100). Then when they go home, the parents “ask” (read: demand) the kid to give them the money for “safekeeping”. So… like… wtf is the point. This is why I don’t like the idea of “tradition”, conservatives be weird af. Like, at one point, I just stop caring when they give it to me and I’m like “just give it to mom” lol.
Red Packet exchange is just glorified Money PingPong games.
“assigning blame is the most useless reaction to disaster. Do damage control and then move on.”
My parents used to blame each other a lot when they were fighting. When my friends mess up something, I will them that it’s annoying, and then figure out how to deal with it. But I’ll never make them feel bad for it, because it’s just wasted energy.
When getting advice, consider if the speakers life is one you want for yourself.
Ok, I’ll consider that. Now, what advice from childhood did you have to share?
Oh that was it. My mom used to say it a lot. Sort of a meta answer I suppose. 😂
I was just pulling your leg. It’s a good one.
