I’ve never understood the appeal, or how it works.

  • do people just wake up and start consuming food/drink without brushing their teeth & washing their face?
  • if not, do they get out of bed to wash up and then get back in bed to eat!?
  • what’s the appeal? I get liking someone else making your breakfast, but why is having it in bed fun?
  • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.net
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    5 小时前

    I brush after eating, never before.

    My face isn’t dirty after sleeping.

    The appeal is that someone else is taking care of you, to the degree of getting up hours earlier to cook for you.

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    My wife has an autoimmune syndrome that makes stairs painful in the morning. I wake up, make coffee, bring her coffee and a snack, and about an hour later when I know she’s awake I bring her breakfast in bed. We eat together and talk about what we’ll do for our respective days, and if there’s anything we need to coordinate for the day that’s when we talk about it. By the time she’s done with that she’s mobile enough to do some stretches and loosen up enough to walk.

    As someone else said, coffee for morning breath, eat breakfast, then brush teeth. It’s about being served breakfast as soon as your ready to sit up in bed

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    11 小时前

    Why would you have to wash your face before eating? Or brush your teeth? You can do it after.

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      11 小时前

      I suppose you don’t HAVE to. But I find it unhygienic to eat before brushing my teeth as soon as I wake up. Might just be my personal issue. 🤷‍♂️

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          11 小时前

          I was told by a dentist to brush my teeth before eating. So at least one dentist would disagree with that I guess?

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            10 小时前

            I’ve read that it helps protect your teeth from all the acidic food you’re gonna eat for breakfast, not necessarily for “hygiene” purposes.

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              5 小时前

              When you brush your teeth and don’t use mouthwash right after, the tooth paste forms a protective barrier to help prevent erosion and acid damage.

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            10 小时前

            That’s the 1 in 5 dentists who don’t recommend a fluoride toothpaste.

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              Dentist: “Use toothpicks, shove em under your gums! Use the blood as your toothpaste! You can even do it to other stuff, too, like digging out a bladder stone!”

              Me, in the chair in the office: 😐😶😯🫨

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          What, you don’t do it both before and after?

          It’s just like showers, you take one as you get out of bed, and another one right before going to bed.

          Some people are just dirty, sheeesh…

          Edit: -> /s

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        10 小时前

        The taste of toothpaste lingers for a while and ruins the flavor of breakfast, especially orange juice.

        The Way™ is Coffee/tea/juice to temporarily overwrite that morning breath feeling, then breakfast, then brushing teeth.

        • fuckwit_mcbumcrumble@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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          The way™️ is to drink enough water and actually brush before bed. If you’re sufficiently hydrated, and you don’t have all that bacteria shitting up your mouth then your morning breath will be a lot less stanky.

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        11 小时前

        For me it’s the other way around. After eating I want to clean my teeth.

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    11 小时前

    I imagine it’s a luxury from the days before our current standards of climate control.

    Imagine you don’t have a central heating unit–you’ve got fireplaces, and that’s it. You wake up, and it’s a brisk 8°C in your house. Staying in your nice cozy bed might not sound so bad.

    It may also be a leftover thing from days when people couldn’t afford to stay in bed in the morning. Only the rich could afford to lounge around that way, so having that once a year would have been a way to treat someone like royalty.

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    I don’t like it because crumbs and spills in bed, and because it’s not a great position for intake and digestion.

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      This. Breakfast in bed is totally overrated.

      Top tier breakfast as a kid was taking the blanket to the couch after waking up and sitting in front of the TV and mom brining breakfast there. Its the same now…best breakfast is sitting upright in the lounge, although control of crumbs remains a problem.

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    I’ve got the same question.

    You could sit confortably to eat on a bed. But you can’t do it in the bed. And whatever is your posture to eat, it is one you’ll take to chill in a bed. So what the point? Why put crumbs, sticky stuff and beverage to a bed that will to be confortable ?

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    11 小时前

    So :
    Yes, I wash up after breakfast anyway.

    No. I resent even having to go pee.

    I love not having to get up, saying toasty in bed (my house gets very cold 6 months a year–around 12C). Also, we tend to make better breakfasts in those cases. With a flower from the garden and everything.

    Additionally, in my 9 year old’s case: since she was born, she had at least 80% of her breakfasts in bed. She likes to wake up slow, she reads for a while after waking up, and since she started middle school her days are hectic, so we pamper her that way. It’s twenty minutes of comfort before she starts her 10-hour days.

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    It’s about someone putting all the effort in so it’s ready for you.

    I wouldn’t give a shit either and don’t see the appeal, but it’s human variation. Like, you probably don’t really see the appeal of going out to eat with friends, and would rather do some other activity with them that you do enjoy.

    But for the majority of people, food is currency, and eating in front of people shows that you’re not going to just take all the food for yourself and you’re willing to provide for someone who (in the moment) has none.

    You’re not going to really get a logical answer, it’s just leftover instincts from billions of years of evolution. Like how your dog isn’t freaking out in excitement over a treat, they’re happy because you are choosing to give them “your” food. Even if it’s the smallest piece they inhale without tasting. It was yours and you gave it to them. It re-enforces the bond.

    The intent is what matters. You value who you share your food with, so who you share food with feels valued by you.

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      11 小时前

      I totally get all of that. Wouldn’t all of that hold true if you were having breakfast on a table/kitchen island too though? I’m specifically confused about what makes having it in bed special.

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        10 小时前

        Because it’s there for you as soon as you wake up.

        The other person (assumedly) got up early, obtained food, and prepared it just for you, without you signalling that you wanted it. Something that in modern times isn’t that big of a deal because it’s just in the kitchen.

        But it shows they thought of you and your needs on their own. They thought of you when you were unconscious and took steps to ensure your comfort and survival. It’s such a base thing that it still really matters.

        Like I said, it’s not really a logical thing that it should matter so much, because food is a lot more accessible. It’s an evolutionary holdover from long before humans or even primates existed. And due to natural variation some people just won’t see any point in it, where to other people it’s still a huge sign of love.

        Like, if you asked why facial symmetry is attractive, most people couldnt explain it. But they still enjoy looking at a symmetrical face even if they don’t know why. And humans are really bad at just guessing and then rationalizing. So they’ll come up with some bullshit and honestly believe it.

        So logically table or bed doesn’t matter. But brains aren’t logical. That boost of it being there the instant you get woken up is what matters most. It’s a sign that even when you’re not physically present the other person will care about you.