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    See my mom just forced me to graduate early, stole all of my scholarship money, and no one told me that taking Calc 3 and 17 hours of engineering classes as a 17 year old was a bad idea! I lost my national merit scholarship and had to sell my body to creepy old dudes to get a college degree in a field that said “no more trannies allowed” 3 years after I graduated!

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      Creepy old dudes… You know I find it weird that you’re at least half of that transaction, on the supply side no less. Yet you’re insulting the customer.

      Assuming you’re not sex trafficked it’s easy to assume that you put yourself there, begrudgingly or not. Yet you’re insulting the other guy.

      What a weird attitude to have.

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        Yeah, I “put myself there” because I got fired from gig work for being a tranny and needed to eat. The dudes who pressured me not to use condoms or fucking stealthed me were just normal guys.

        Eat a bag of dicks.

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    My college plans basically got derailed bacause I can’t control my emotions it fucking consumed me. I’m just a puddle of sadness now. I feel so dumb that I don’t even know where to get weed.

    Average Chinese-American experience. I have no idea how the fuck, that my Chinese American classmates were able to handle all that shit their parents throw at them.

    Every time the adults talk to each other, its end up with “so-and-so’s kid is taking college classes and they’re not even 16” or some bullshit.

    Or the “Your cousin (Who’s also a US Citizen) is doing bussiness in [Some other country in Europe or Southeasr Asia]”

    And they didn’t give me a phone when it was the smartphone era when everyone had one, so I was just the loser/weirdo sitting in the cornet staring at the wall during lunch and I can’t even finish homework because I don’t have a phone to look up google classroom, so much time wasted being bored.

    Yea you wonder why I have self-esteem issues and no friends, no social life, and depressed as fuck.

    Where the fuck do I get weed? (Also isn’t it like federally illegal in the US? Expecially considering… current politics… ahem #47 ahem)

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      What I’m reading:

      • You want to be successful. When you get compared to your family members, you wish they were proud of you too, because you trust and value their opinion and want to contribute in a meaningful profession.

      • You like being around people. You’d love to have the latest technology so you can not only participate in class, but also relate to the people around you.

      • You’re a responsible person. You want to avoid legal trouble and stick to following laws and social norms.

      I don’t have any advice, but I just wanted to point out the wonderful things I noticed about you, and I hope you find your path or some peace soon.

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      Which state are you in? That’s the most important thing to know to suggest getting weed

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        Yea I… um… I don’t really feel like saying where I live, but basically recreational is illegal and its medical only.

        And its still technically illegal on the federal level so I feel like feds are gonna be monitoring those locations. Biden admin had an executive order that told federal agencies to stop enforcing non-violent drug offenses in states where it’s legal, but today… this is trump admin we’re taking about. The law that makes weed illegal is still on the books and I feel scared.

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          understandable fear, and a fear I share - but I still buy weed anyways. I decided not to let that fear keep me from enjoying one of the few still enjoyable things

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          Yeah you’re right to be cautious. A random user ID and a state name is more than enough for the Feds to be able to figure out whose door to kick in.

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            Oh yea about that… I feel like that paperwork stuff is just too much.

            I’m still kinda dependent on my parents especially when it comes to depression and I need their money to get treatment for depression, drugs are a big no-no.

            Because I was thinking like some under-the-table cash purchase that I can just wear a mask and sunglasses and walk into a store and just anonymously get it leaving no trace of ever being there. For medical cards, I’d have to get it registered with the state and that’s… a bit too much work and I’m mentally exhausted.

            Like I’m assuming they’ll have to mail your medical card and yea if my parents saw that, I’m so fucked. I don’t have a friend to stay with, and with depression it isn’t gonna be fun to find randos to split rent with (rent is too expensive).

            And I’m embarassed to say this, but I still have some sort of separation anxiety with my parents even tho they are very emotionally abusive. I took an entire bottle of antidepressants when I was at college because my emotions were overwhelming so I had to withdrawl. I think the reason why I have separation anxiety because I never propertly got to socialize since I was pretty much an outcast. Its sort of like a stockholm syndrome, but its more lile I really need financial support because I’m just not in a good mental space right now. I have like a year blanked due to my depressiona and that’s very difficult to ecplain to any employer, and its not like I can even handle it. I get scare by small noises like doors opening or closing (mostly caused by parents emotional abuse). I wake up trembling in fear, and wanting to die every moment. Doctor’s appointment takes months, and I already missed a few, which again, is due to me being a puddle of ancious goo when I need to get ready to leave.

            I’m basically a Life is Strange protagonist but without any superpowers and without the friends (Alex Chen is so relatable, well except she had people that care about her, I don’t). Or I’m like Evil Morty, in terms of the abuse, and feeling trapped, but also not smart enough like Evil Morty being able to escape.

            Sorry for the wall of text. Didn’t meant to dump an entire life trauma onto an internet stranger lol

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    Omg. That’s basically what I do…

    Or at least did until I got a girlfriend with two kids. Now it’s just kids all the damn time.

    I’ve watched despicable me like 90 fucking times.

    For the love of God someone please help me.

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      Edibles in moderation, my friend. Stealth high helps me and my husband when my mom visits.

      Just don’t drive or do anything stupid like that while high.

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    Like… Which YouTube conspiracy videos? Hard to find ones that aren’t a mouthpiece for some sort of political party, I could use some expert recommendations.

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      FWIW, The Why Files does a great job of telling the story, then hitting some of the most wobbly points. If there’s no direct evidence to fully debunk, they say that. Runs the full gambit of old school to really new stuff. Tons of fun, totally worth the time.

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      I manage to get my conspiracy theory fix out of History For Granite. I’d rate him maybe a 2.1 on the conspirometer, he’s not an “Ancient aliens built the pyramids as landing platforms for their spacecraft” guy, he’s more of a “Everybody says the bent pyramid was a failure, yet it has a completed temple complex, while the Red pyramid does not. Hmm. Why do they keep pushing this narrative?” kind of guy.

      A few examples:

      • One of his videos contains back to back shots of Zahi Hawas describing Scan Pyramids’ finding of the entrance corridor void “Not a discovery” or “The most important discovery of the 21st century” depending on if he was involved in announcing it.
      • Possibly in the same video, he accuses the Egyptian ministry of antiquities of maintaining the monuments more as tourist traps; the oogie boogie weirdos bring in more tourism revenue than scientists so guess who gets prioritized?
      • He’s got a whole video about how there are these outfits that will advertise advanced metrology of the pyramids, LIDAR scans or whatever, and then never publish the data.
      • “Internal Ramp Theory.” Look at how they treated that guy.
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    👏 Modern 👏 Honors 👏 Programs 👏 Exist 👏 To 👏 Segregate 👏 Integrated 👏 Schools 👏

    Your kid isn’t special. They just came out on the top side of a system designed to deprive a percentage of your neighbors of quality elementary education.

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      I would disagree. A lot of countries provide a multi track secondary education too account for the desire and ability of different students. Having different education tracks isn’t just American invention. It just happens to be that there is an easier jump from the lower education track to college in the USA compared to other countries.

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        A lot of countries provide a multi track secondary education too account for the desire and ability of different students.

        Tracking students into different careers is very different from separating students into “Smart” and “Dumb” cohorts, particularly when the membership in the “Smart” cohort is more closely aligned with one’s street address than one’s scholastic aptitude.

        Even then, career tracking absolutely can and does take on a segregationist character when the wages of the labor make access to certain career paths a purchasable privilege. That’s how you get all the Eton College grads going into politics and journalism as a single congealed cohort, regardless of the competency of the school’s members.

        there is an easier jump from the lower education track to college in the USA compared to other countries

        The US has been at the forefront of privatized credentialing. And that’s created a rich vein of for-profit schools that exist above the High School grade, which people are obligated to assume debts to attend in order to be accredited for certain jobs.

        That’s not a “jump” between tracks, though. That’s just the elementary public education system getting defunded. We’re leaving large gaps between “what you need to graduate high school” and “what you need to start your professional career”.

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          Even then, career tracking absolutely can and does take on a segregationist character when the wages of the labor make access to certain career paths a purchasable privilege.

          And yet it appears in most countries, including Communist ones like China. This isn’t a uniquely American action.

          That’s how you get all the Eton College grads going into politics and journalism as a single congealed cohort.

          That’s more due to family connections. Most UK students taking their A-Levels aren’t going into politics and journalism.

          And that’s created a rich vein of for-profit schools that exist above the High School grade, which people are obligated to assume debts to attend in order to be accredited for certain jobs.

          The USA still has one of the best public university systems in the world. This includes community college programs which help “lower” track students get a 4 year college degree.

          And, going back to what I’ve said earlier, other countries have degree restrictions on their jobs as well. Senior government positions in other countries are usually the domain of the college educated, with a much lower percentage of their populations having a college degree.

          You keep pointing to things happening in the USA as a uniquely American set-up and therefore evil without being able to contrast that with his the rest of the world handles secondary education.

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            And yet it appears in most countries, including Communist ones like China.

            I’m not sure how we shoehorned “China Bad” into the discussion. But a country with a large public non-profit education system that’s insourced enormous amounts of industrial research and development isn’t a strong example of this model. On the contrary, the Chinese state has been particularly good at pulling domestic talent into domestic industry. It’s one of the excuses Americans regularly use to condemn Chinese manufacturers for “cheating” and “stealing” intellectual property. They’re not hiring a bunch of American Ivy League grads to run their businesses in Shanghai and Chengdu. They’re hiring and promoting from within.

            That’s more due to family connections.

            Eton’s family connections are economic connections. It’s one big aristocratic snarl. You’re rich because of who you know and you know these people because you’re rich.

            The USA still has one of the best public university systems in the world.

            20 years ago it did. Now our administrative overhead has exploded, our student-to-teacher ratios are shit, even historically prestigious state schools are becoming little more than diploma mills, and on top of all that you’ve got Trump snatching international students off campus and throwing them into blacksites based on spurious allegations of whatever-the-fuck has an online conservative frothing for blood.

            Meanwhile, you can go to Berlin, Germany or Sao Paulo, Brazil or Melbourne, Australia or Singapore, China and get the same or better quality of instruction, facilities, and job prospects without the comical rent-seeking by privatized American institutions. Turns out undergrad organic chemistry isn’t something Americans have a monopoly on.

            other countries have degree restrictions on their jobs as well

            Which nation outside the US has anywhere near the level of college student debt? Canada and the UK are the only two countries that come close.

            You keep pointing to things happening in the USA as a uniquely American

            Americans pioneered the modern university system at the turn of the 20th century. That system began as a non-profit, research-oriented, academically focused public institution. And the idea of academic R&D spread globally, so that we now have university systems replicating the 20th century American model pretty much everywhere a large urban center exists to support it.

            But then the Americans took a good, useful, public sector innovation and converted it into a mechanism for gatekeeping professional positions and rent-seeking young people. That particular model hasn’t metastasized as broadly as the former. Perhaps its just a matter of time. But it appears the root of the evil is the decision, back at the turn of the 21st century, to publicly defund university systems.

            So much of the rot in US academia is driven by the privatization of the university model. Where you see the rot infiltrate other foreign universities tends to be where privatization has occurred the most rapidly.

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              I’m not sure how we shoehorned “China Bad” into the discussion.

              I’m not, but you’ve identified a a thing as American without looking at how the rest of the world operates and how some practices may be an international standard or at least more uniform than just one country. I didn’t say “China bad”, I brought up that China performs the a similar filtering of students; you applied the label that I was saying “China bad”.

              It sounds like you’re angry at the American system, a system you know, and think other systems must be better without understanding how other secondary education systems work. Other countries may do some things than the USA, but a lot of the basic structure that you complained out is more universal than you think.

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                you’ve identified a a thing as American without looking at how the rest of the world operates

                You’ve restricted your understanding of the world to the US/UK and its colonial enclaves. FFS, how do you think Cuba is pumping out so many extremely talented doctors per capita? It’s not via the American debt-for-access model.

                It sounds like you’re angry at the American system

                Hard not to personally experience the machine that grinds your bones and not feel a little resentful for being shoved through it. But more broadly, it has been eye-opening to travel and talk to people outside the American financing system and learn how other countries produce large numbers of professionals who aren’t crippled by debt on graduation day.

                Other countries may do some things than the USA, but a lot of the basic structure that you complained out is more universal than you think.

                The debt-financing model is not simply an American invention, but a very recent American invention. As in, barely ten years separate the cohort who got larded up with debt and the generation that didn’t. It came about very quickly and as a coordinated set of reforms orchestrated by privately funded think tanks primarily based in the United States.

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                  You’ve shifted to talking about tertiary education, which I’ll agree that the USA hasn’t funded to the level of other countries.

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      I wanted to comment because I’ve seen your comments and thought of you as a thoughtful commentator and I suspect we have similar political alignments.

      My child is in an urban school district. For several school board administrations, the focus has been on equity prioritizing black and indigenous peoples. I agree with this. I think systemic racism has led to the deterioration of these communities resulting in a downward spiral that we, as a society, have to work hard and pull out of.

      My child performed well enough to be invited to the alternative, accelerated program for highly gifted students. We decided noto send him as he was well integrated into his school, but his performance is an outlier in his cohort. For a number of reasons I won’t go into, his current school is a language immersion school. It is unique because it was started by the language speaking community and has operated for several decades. It takes children from all over the district via lottery. It sounds like equity at first, but there’s a limited number of people who can spare the time to send their kids to a school not in their district (bussing can help) and learn a language that isn’t their primary one. This has helped him not be incredibly bored the entire school day.

      His school is a mixture that leans towards the affluent. The language community that supports the program is a “model” minority and it attracts affluent people for the reasons stated above. The school performs well in testing and their funding reflects that. Unfortunately, this has led to the worst class room ratios in the entire district and high performing children are neglected because teachers need to make sure those not meeting the norm or need the help to meet the norm are getting that help. Giving these people that help is very important. Neglecting high performers deprives them of metacognative skills.

      High performers need to accelerate and be challenged in a way that is different. Their brain solve problems weirdly, sometimes rigorously, sometimes with leaps that don’t make sense to anyone but themselves. While my kid isn’t in the top ten percent of the top one percent, these kids need special attention that our system can’t provide.

      All of this isn’t to say you’re wrong. I think parents perpetuate a system that lets them access the basic education that we all deserve and find perpetually underfunded.

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        High performers need to accelerate and be challenged in a way that is different.

        That’s a theory, certainly. I’ve seen others, suggesting that kids can perform better when they collaborate with their peers. More advanced kids who tutor a subject they’re familiar with outperform advanced students who simply race on to the next lesson.

        But, broadly speaking, the three prerequisites for a good education are

        • Small Class Sizes
        • Educated/experienced teachers with a focus in the field they’re covering
        • Well fed/rested students

        “Gifted” programs tend to shrink their class cohorts and provide more experienced teachers. Their kids come from wealthier families that don’t let them leave the house hungry. A lot of the behavioral problems you see in “low” performing students are the consequences of hunger and stress.

        That’s the difference.

        When schools provide breakfast programs and equitably distribute resources, offer social services rather than bullying kids with police, and keep the lesson plan from being busy work everyone hates, they improve the performance of the entire student body rather than a select privileged sub community.

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          I agree with the bulk of what you’re saying. I think those three points are essential. I’m even a strong proponent of collaborative learning. Hell… I forgot to include a paragraph on it, unschooling, and free schooling.

          I think programs like Math Circles focus on creative engagement with the material through collaboration. The instructor engages with the conversation flow and hints in directions when they get stuck. This type of engagement is crucial and requires small class sizes. My kiddo is a talker and gets labeled as an “innovator” or just “a little disruptive”.

          And in no way am I suggesting making the race on to another subject, rather, engaging at different depths for subjects they’ve shown competency in or are actually bored with. Hell, this is true for all students. Different depths may be the thing that spark engagement.

          I think segregated gifted classes are a mistake. In class acceleration, exploring at depth, compacting, interest led projects, and backfilling with a well educated teacher who, frankly, the kid likes goes a long way. For a while, he wanted to be a second grade teacher because she used to have very little rules and kids wouldn’t get in trouble for being themselves. She was also probably the oldest teacher at the school with the warmest disposition.

          He is, to my hesitancy, choosing to accelerate into the next grade for one subject. Normally, I’d be a pretty hard no, but he has genuine excitement to do so. That and a non trivial portion of their math is on a computer. The computer is filled with crap animation and rote engagement that it slows him down which means boredom for him.

          I’m a little hesitant to back tutoring especially at this age. He’s so invested in being smart that it gets in the way of being present in the way one needs to be to clarify mistakes and introduce concepts. Hell, identifying where one makes a mistake and how to guide someone back to the core concepts is a skill. And many kids need the repition to demonstrate competency. Getting a kid who just “gets it” to tutor is a mistake until they are a little older.

          Kids who are gift still require unique engagement. I met a 12 year old whose math skills far exceeds my kid’s ability. He was, still at that age, trying to get me to light up with his knowledge. And I was happy to. He had the math skills I had at 16 or 17, but emotionally he was a 12 years old. He was in no way suited to teach anyone yet. But he needed to talk with people who were capable and interested in hearing what he was learning. It was a lot of fun for me to do so.

          So I largely agree: well fed students with competent, connected teachers who have a class size that lets them actually connect is definitely the starting point. Part of that connection, though, is tailoring the material to the specific child’s needs and helping where they need it. Collaboration and creative exploration is also important. But each kid moves at a different speed and being supported by kids who are moving neither too fast nor too slow will create an exciting atmosphere for learning. At the same time, kids also need to see, for some of the time, how kids move at different speeds and still get the material.

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    Here are all of the Epstein Files that have either been leaked or released.

    https://joshwho.net/EpsteinList/gov.uscourts.nysd.447706.1320.0-combined.pdf   (verified court documents)

    https://joshwho.net/EpsteinList/black-book-unredacted.pdf%C2%A0(verified Trump is on page 85, or pdf pg. 80

    Trump’s name is circled. The circled individuals are the ones involved in the trafficking ring according to the person who originally released the book. These people would be “The List “ Here is the story.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsiKUXrlcac

    Here’s the flight logs https://www.documentcloud.org/documents/21165424-epstein-flight-logs-released-in-usa-vs-maxwell/

    —————————other Epstein Information

    https://cdn.factcheck.org/UploadedFiles/Johnson/_TrumpEpstein/_Calif/_Lawsuit.pdf%C2%A0here%E2%80%99s a court doc of Epstein and Trump raping a 13 yr old together.

    Some people think this claim is a hoax. Here is Katies testimony on youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnib-OORRRo

    Jeffrey Epstein’s Ex Says He Boasted About Being a Mossad Agent https://share.google/jLMGahKlCzfV1RHZqJeffrey Epstein and Israel both have the same lawyer Alan Dershowitz, Dershowitz says he’s building ‘legal dream team’ to defend Israel in court and on international stage | The Times of Israel https://share.google/Lb9hDOduBWG4Elpid

    —————————other Trump information:

    Here’s trump admitting to peeping on 14-15 year old girls at around 1:40 on the Howard Stern Radio Show: https://youtu.be/iFaQL_kv_QY

    Trump’s promise to his daughter: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/donald-trump-ivanka-trump-dating-promise/_n/_57ee98cbe4b024a52d2ead02%C2%A0%E2%80%9CI have a deal with her. She’s 17 and doing great ― Ivanka. She made me promise, swear to her that I would never date a girl younger than her,” Trump said. “So as she grows older, the field is getting very limited.”

    Adding the court affidavit from Katie, as well: https://www.politico.com/f/?id=00000158-267d-dda3-afd8-b67d3bc00000

    Never forget Katie Johnson.

    Trump’s modeling agency was probably part of Jeffreys pipeline: https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2016/08/donald-trump-model-management-illegal-immigration/

    Do your part and spread them around like a meme sharing them and saving them helps too! Please copy and paste this elsewhere!

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      I think the work of saving and preserving these files en-masse is important, but spamming on random threads isn’t the way.

      All it serves to do is detract from the original discussion for those this appeals to, and frustrates everyone else, watering down the very message you’re trying to put out there.

      This could be a post on many relevant Lemmy communities and probably do well on the majority of them, thus achieving that mission without polluting Lemmy with spam that adds nothing to the current conversation.